It takes courage for someone to acknowledge their fears, their limits, their capacity to grow.
Pick an area of your life, Health, Relationship, Career.
Where is your fear stopping you making a larger contribution to the world, from living an energetic life, a fulfilled relationship?
If you are absolutely fearless, would you be doing the same job as you are doing right now?
Your fear is where you stop short from living your life with full self-expression, where you compromise your gifts.
Do not live in an illusion that you are absolutely fearless. All of us are afraid unless we are enlightened.
Admit it, if not, you are living a fake life, Pretending to yourself and others. Others feel your fear even if you don’t. They will lose trust in you.
What are these fears?
Fear of Failure
Fear of Success
Fear of Changing your lifestyle, your career.
Maybe you don’t want to risk, you are in your comfort zone.
And it is Ok, Just become aware and acknowledge them. It’s perfectly OK. Just be true to them and go about living. As an experiment just share your fears with yourself.
You can start by sharing something like,
“ I am lazy and I procrastinate even though I know I can earn more money. I am afraid that I might fail if I try my own business.
I have worked very hard and now I am comfortable with where I am, I ‘ll have to spend most of my life doing things, I have no interest in.
I rather watch some TV and drink rather than be creative.”
Honour your fears. Honour your choices. Be honest. A person who can acknowledge who he is and knows his fears is far more trustworthy than a person who is not even aware of them.
And you don’t have to prove anyone, anything. We are only free when we learn to live with our fears without hiding them or without hiding from them.
Story: From Osho: I’M ALRIGHT SO FAR!!
Once there was a great king who asked his magician to find him a courageous man for a dangerous mission. After a long search, the magician brought four men before his master. The king, wishing to choose the most courageous of the four, asked the magician to arrange a test.
The king, the magician and the four men went to the edge of a large field, on the other side of which stood a barn. The magician gave instructions: “Each man shall have his turn. He is to walk to the barn and bring forth what is there inside.”
The first man walked across the field. Suddenly a storm came up: lightning flashed, thunder rolled, the ground shook. The man hesitated. He was frightened. As the storm increased, he fell down in fear.
The second man walked across the field. The storm grew worse, until it was a tempest. The second man passed the first man, but finally he also fell down.
The third man started with a rush, and passed the other two. But the heavens opened, the ground split, and the barn itself waved and cracked. The third man fell down.
The fourth started slowly. He felt his footing. His face was white with fear. But he was more afraid of being thought afraid than of anything else. Slowly he passed the first man, and he said, to himself, “I’m alright — so far.” Foot by foot he went on until he had passed the second man, and again he said to himself, “So far I’m alright.” Little by little he closed the gap between him and the third man, while the storm got worse. When he passed the third frightened man he said to himself, “So far I’m alright. Nothing has happened to me. I can go a little farther.” So little by little, an inch at a time now, he went towards the barn. He got there at last, and just before he touched the latch he said, “So far I’m alright. I can go a little farther.” Then he put his hand on the latch.
Instantly the storm ceased, the ground was steady, and the sun shone. The man was astonished. From inside the barn came a munching sound. For a moment he thought it might be a trick. Then he thought, “I’m still alright,” and opened the door. Inside he found a white horse eating oats. Nearby was a suit of white armour. The man put it on, saddled the horse, rode out to the king and the magician, and said, “I am ready, Sire.”
“How do you feel?” asked the king.
“I’m alright so far,” the man said.
Vaneet “Acknowledging Fear” Duggal